Don't take her hatred seriously. We would tell our Mom we hated her all the time. It didn't even phase her. She would tell us "Well I love you." Then we would get so furious. Then my Mom would just laugh at us. When we said we hated our family and wanted to live with a different family she would just say something like "Yeah right, you are never going to find a family as good as ours." My mom actually liked it when we acted like this because to her it ment that whatever she was doing was working. We all love her to death now.
I know for a fact that Faith does not hate you. Case in point (i tried to call you to tell you this but your cell was turned off, so excuse the long note):
In sharing time on Sunday, we were talking about demonstrating kindness to our families. The senior kids really got into it. I told them they were at an age where they would start to question authority and think it was okay to disrespect their parents. We talked about how it was okay to ask questions or raise concerns, but not do it in a sassy or disrespectful way. We talked about not freaking out, taking it down a notch, and using our words to express our feelings. All the kids starting raising their hands and giving examples. Faith mentioned that the two of you will sometimes squabble and then apologize to each other and watch a movie together and that it made her feel good when you spent time with her. She said it so sweetly and with such affection for you.
Faith does love you--she hangs on your every word. She just has a picture in her head of what an ideal mom is. None of us meet that picture for our kids. All we can do is love them, pray for them, and bear our testimonies to them in simple ways. You do that like a champ of a mom everyday. Keep up the good work, tiger.
Kids take their anger out on their moms because it's the easiest person to be mad at without losing their love. It probably has nothing to do with you at all. She just knows you will love her unconditionally. Erin will fall and bonk her head then come over and is ugly to me because she got hurt and some how it's all my fault. Go figure! I'm dreading when it gets more on an emtional level. I'm sure her friends being mean to her and her boyfriend hurting her feelings and her getting in trouble at school ect ect ect will all be my fault too.
Mom i am sorry i came on here but listen i do not hate you and i am really sorry that you think that cause it is not true and it kind of hurts that you think i do cause i am really trying to work on that and i think the truth is sometimes you hate me too so we both feel the same and dont get mad at me for coming on your blog it is just that it is so cool on here well thats all i have to say so do not think that i hate you cause sometimes i feel the same way that you hate me and that i would better off not being here cause mabey your life would be better but then i know that you love me and i love you and that nothing in the world could ever ever ever cange that.
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What's that all about?
Did she say that? Why do you think that?
Of COURSE she hates you because she's a tween, except she is maturing quicker than most, so she is more like 13. It's not permanent.
Really, though. She doesn't hate you. She is too obsessed with you (think Mary and Mom. Sorry Moo).
I think most girls her age hate their mother. I did. Lesson learned for me: enjoy Alexa's love now because it'll change faster than I know!
Just to be sure ya'll understand, she started hating me at about 18months, and the hatred has only grown as much as she has!
Oh, and I think her projected height is like 7'3".
She's a girl! It was bound to happen sooner or later. Girls are moody and weird and sometimes irrationally hate everyone.
But she'll eventually snap out of it and realize how cool her mom really is.
Don't take her hatred seriously. We would tell our Mom we hated her all the time. It didn't even phase her. She would tell us "Well I love you." Then we would get so furious. Then my Mom would just laugh at us. When we said we hated our family and wanted to live with a different family she would just say something like "Yeah right, you are never going to find a family as good as ours." My mom actually liked it when we acted like this because to her it ment that whatever she was doing was working. We all love her to death now.
I know for a fact that Faith does not hate you. Case in point (i tried to call you to tell you this but your cell was turned off, so excuse the long note):
In sharing time on Sunday, we were talking about demonstrating kindness to our families. The senior kids really got into it. I told them they were at an age where they would start to question authority and think it was okay to disrespect their parents. We talked about how it was okay to ask questions or raise concerns, but not do it in a sassy or disrespectful way. We talked about not freaking out, taking it down a notch, and using our words to express our feelings. All the kids starting raising their hands and giving examples. Faith mentioned that the two of you will sometimes squabble and then apologize to each other and watch a movie together and that it made her feel good when you spent time with her. She said it so sweetly and with such affection for you.
Faith does love you--she hangs on your every word. She just has a picture in her head of what an ideal mom is. None of us meet that picture for our kids. All we can do is love them, pray for them, and bear our testimonies to them in simple ways. You do that like a champ of a mom everyday. Keep up the good work, tiger.
Oh no...what happened and what did you do about it? I need details because my kids already hate me and I don't know what to do about it.
Kids are dumb.
the end.
I hate tweens! I have two. Hang in there!
Kids take their anger out on their moms because it's the easiest person to be mad at without losing their love. It probably has nothing to do with you at all. She just knows you will love her unconditionally. Erin will fall and bonk her head then come over and is ugly to me because she got hurt and some how it's all my fault. Go figure! I'm dreading when it gets more on an emtional level. I'm sure her friends being mean to her and her boyfriend hurting her feelings and her getting in trouble at school ect ect ect will all be my fault too.
Mom i am sorry i came on here but listen i do not hate you and i am really sorry that you think that cause it is not true and it kind of hurts that you think i do cause i am really trying to work on that and i think the truth is sometimes you hate me too so we both feel the same and dont get mad at me for coming on your blog it is just that it is so cool on here well thats all i have to say so do not think that i hate you cause sometimes i feel the same way that you hate me and that i would better off not being here cause mabey your life would be better but then i know that you love me and i love you and that nothing in the world could ever ever ever cange that.
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